“Character isn’t inherited. One builds it daily by the way one thinks and acts, thought by thought, action by action.” – Helen Gahagan Douglas
There is a myth that nobody can change their character. Your character isn’t permanent. It has a tendency to adapt to certain actions and situations.
So, how do you build character? Let’s start feeling strong-willed and firm.
Do the Right Thing
What exactly is doing the right thing? Well, that’s up to you. There are people who have the right values and will usually do the right thing, but they can still be unpleasant. Do you have a clear set of values and beliefs? These core values and beliefs will often stem from how you were raised, but as you get older, you have the power to change those values and beliefs to become a better person.
Gratitude is something we have to work on every day. We can easily lose sight of the positive things in our lives as soon as one negative situation occurs. Look at your surroundings on a daily basis. Your spouse, children, the roof over your head, the food in your fridge and waking up each morning is something to be grateful for. Gratitude doesn’t always have to be connected to big events or things in life. Expressing gratitude for the smaller things can really make a difference.
Society is constantly trying to mold us. From trying to tell us what to think, how to dress, what to eat and how to exist. Is your character strong enough to fully understand the impressions of society? Having social intelligence means you’re aware that society is attempting to put you in a bubble. Be aware that your inner self is more important and valuable than a cookie-cutter society. Allow yourself to absorb information and think deeply to come to your own conclusions.
Love of Learning
We learn something new every day. Whether big or small, knowledge is power. No one is perfect. Everyone has room for improvement. Have you ever completed a task at work and wondered, “What am I doing this for?” then months or years later you land a new job because of that one particular skill? You never know how the knowledge you obtain will come in handy in the future. Stay open to learning.
Put some thought into the character you’re building. It’s easier said than done, but with persistence, you’ll achieve it.